What if you can't forgive?
You have probably heard some people say that they can never forgive. Maybe you have said it too! For whatever reason they say this, the result is the same. Unforgivingness gets so wedged into their heart that the root of bitterness infects the different areas of their life. A bitter person is the very opposite to a gracious persone. Or to approach it a bit differently, bitterness is the opposite of Jesus. In summary, if someone has offended you including yourself, then you have it within your power to forgive.
What does it mean not to be able to forgive?
This common phrase 'not being able to forgive' means that we do not want to forgive rather than the implied 'we cannot forgive.' The bulk of the problem is having the offended humbly acknowledge this simple fact of their unforgiving heart. It is a will problem. And though it seems like a radical statement, we must affirm that the problem in a real sense is not them but us. After all, God worked with the humble sinners rather than with the stubborn and prideful ones.
What happens when you do not forgive others?
There are several consequences. None of them are pleasant. Each brings the worse out of a situation.